24 of the Most Honest Confessions of a Desi Girl

Like it or not, life is different for us desi girls on the eastern hemisphere. But what exactly does a “desi girl” stand for?

Urban Dictionary elaborates quite colorfully,

You know a girl is desi if:

She never leaves the house without a ridiculous amount of makeup on (Always on point), especially enough powder or foundation to make her face white (Goray rung ka zamana kabhi hoga na purana?). She will not go [to] a desi function unless she is dressed from head to… toe, with makeup and enough jewelry to be a bride, and the most bad-ass high heels (Damn straight). She is up to date with the latest fashion (From Sana Safinaz to Zuhair Murad, Hell Yea!)

She has stabbed you in the back at least once, if not regularly (HAWWWW)

People on twitter took it upon themselves to further investigate:

1. Desi girls can whip up a storm in a teacup…or a spice-fest in a karahi.

#WhatItsLikeToBeADesiGirl Actually knowing how to cook proper food instead of being 20 years old and relying on beans on toast everyday 😊😊😊😊
— _7rip (@_7rip) March 1, 2016

2. We get so excited over potential stalking opportunities of a said cutie.

#WhatItsLikeToBeADesiGirl seeing a cute boy at a wedding& u know u're ganna be seeing him again for another 2/3days pic.twitter.com/YQDMv3J3u0
— 🇵🇸🇸🇩🇨🇩 (@sumabouta) March 3, 2016

3. US DESIS LOOK SUPER SLAY ON WEDDINGS.

https://twitter.com/hxnnana/status/704699609625583616

4. Check, check, check out the bling.

https://twitter.com/_sophbh_/status/704699205521162240

5. #Blessed

https://twitter.com/zainvbs/status/704688989740130304

6. Never too young for the rishta hunt.

https://twitter.com/zaexo_/status/704669487329624064

7. Parents basically got everything covered.

https://twitter.com/aishaaah1/status/704661007373885440

8. Because we’re worth it.

https://twitter.com/Unofficialak/status/704659793366138880

9. Which makes leaving your parents so damn emotional.

#whatitsliketobeadesigirl The hardest goodbye,a father letting his little princess go😔❤️
Insta Cred;@harpreetgarcha pic.twitter.com/JBCR97MCeE
— S H I V A N I (@shivani_roda) March 1, 2016

10. Families are close-knit and end up being the perfect safety net for rainy days.

https://twitter.com/PoppetMann/status/705276116278194176

11. But not everything is sunny-side up.

#WhatItsLikeToBeADesiGirl 😒😒 pic.twitter.com/5sdZdE7qDK
— Aisha 🕊 (@iAshiXo) March 1, 2016

12. Being a desi girl isn’t all cotton-candy, butterflies and rainbows.

https://twitter.com/dxxsi/status/704730924588531712

13. In fact, there are some dark aspects that were also discussed. Demonizing Malala and Sharmeen, for example.

Where vocal women like Malala and Sharmeen are demonized for addressing the misogyny and injustice in our society #WhatItsLikeTobeaDesiGirl
— Fatima Wajid ♡ (@fatimajpeg) March 3, 2016

14. The concept of “haya” (or bay-hayai) was questioned.

#WhatItsLikeToBeADesiGirl having to hide your panties and bras but having to fold the undergarments of all the men in the house
— tasmi (@tasmiimlak) March 1, 2016

15. Societal victim shaming is sadly, one of the biggest concerns.

#WhatItsLikeToBeADesiGirl being blamed for the way creepy uncles look at you even though you're only a child
— coco 🐈‍⬛ (@THOTlSTANI) March 1, 2016

16. Them aunties have really got some nerve.

#WhatItsLikeToBeADesiGirl not being able to wear whatever I want because "what will the aunty's think about me"
— ✰ (@saretuh) March 1, 2016

17. If we had a hundred rupees for every time we’ve heard this statement, we’d be a millionaire.

https://twitter.com/aishakhvn/status/704498056054579200

18. Log kya kaheingay becoming your KALIMA.

"log kya kahain gaye" literally becoming ur kalima before doing something//everything #WhatItsLikeToBeADesiGirl
— 💲 (@safuhhh) March 1, 2016

19. Compromise becomes a solid regular entrant in your vocabulary and the color of your skin is the epitome of beauty.

https://twitter.com/ImLamaa/status/704458598944903169

20. Nosy aunties won’t let us be!

https://twitter.com/lakshrni/status/704460521358106624

21. Mental illnesses are written off and mother-in-laws are made out to be the devil.

Getting threats such as "just wait till you get married" or "your mother in law will sort you out" #WhatItsLikeToBeADesiGirl
— misha (@mishxaa) February 29, 2016

22. Your gender is somehow made out to be a handicap.

https://twitter.com/lakshrni/status/704460172110987264

23. You eventually grow wary of the expectations.

https://twitter.com/priya_ebooks/status/704613577760468992

24. In the name of honour…

https://twitter.com/mairanotmaria2/status/704781956215676932

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