Having your heart broken and hitting rock bottom to the point where you feel hopeless and helpless is one of the most awful feelings in the world. But we’ve all been there, haven’t we? Breakup.
Here are some tried and tested heartbreak hacks that will help you not only move on from your ex but also to move on to the next phase of your life!
1) Shift your perspective Breakup
It may be a hard pill to swallow, but deep down you know that wondering about all those what-ifs won’t get you anywhere, especially since the relationship is pretty much nonexistent now. It’s time to get real with yourself and accept the fact that the relationship is over for good, whatever the reason may be.
2) It is okay to still have feelings for your ex Breakup
You are only human. Don’t beat yourself up if you still have feelings for them even if things ended badly. Don’t try to shut off your emotions. Being in denial will only prolong the healing process. Sit with your emotions and feel them. Since it took a while for you to develop an emotional bond with your ex, you cannot expect those feelings to go away so easily. But don’t worry, they’ll go away eventually. Just stop running from them!
3) Get rid of that sad-ass playlist!
It’s easy to wallow away months of your life listening to oh-i-miss-my-boo playlists, but actually it’s not going to help you, is it? You may find those sad songs making you feel better, but they also wreck your brain by constantly reminding you of your pain. Instead of listening to songs that make you feel worse, pick ones that make you feel better.
4) Stop stalking already
Let’s face it: stalking can be quite addictive. You reach a point when you are simply acting out of habit when, in fact, you don’t even care! But it only delays your healing and prevents you from moving on. So, the best way out is to remove them from your social media, or simply block them. DO NOT create phony profiles to stalk them!
5) Figure out why you are fixated
What is it that keeps you fixated on them despite everything? Why are you still clinging to them if they made it crystal clear that they don’t want you in their lives any longer? Consider seeing a therapist or counselor to get to the bottom of why you’re still obsessed with your ex.
Hurrying up the process by ignoring your feelings, partying, or smoking them away will not lessen your misery. It is better to face it and deal with it in a healthy way.
Good luck as you go on to a better, happier future. You can do this!
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